Navigating the Emotional Turmoil of Job Loss: 5 Ways to Heal and Move On

By Kelley Bridenbaugh

Losing your job can feel a lot like going through a relationship breakup.

It's a loss of something that you had come to rely on, something that you had built a part of your identity around. You might feel a deep sense of rejection and failure as if something must be wrong with you. You might feel like you're on an emotional rollercoaster, one moment feeling confident and ready to move on, the next moment feeling crushed and alone.

The truth is, losing your job is a traumatic experience, and it's natural to feel a wide range of emotions. But just like with a relationship breakup, it's important to remember that this is not the end of the world. You will heal and you will move on. In the meantime, here are five tips for how to feel better during this difficult transition.

First, allow yourself to grieve.

It's important to acknowledge the loss and give yourself permission to feel sad, angry, or other emotions. Don't try to suppress or ignore your feelings, as this will only prolong the healing process. Instead, try to find healthy ways to process them. Write in a journal, talk to a friend, or do something creative.

Second, take care of yourself.

Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being during this time is important. Make sure you're getting enough sleep, eating well, and exercising. If you're struggling with anxiety or depression, consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor. Research also shows, after losing your job and going through other big life changes, you’re more likely to get sick so double up on that water and Vitamin C.

Third, focus on what you can control.

Losing your job can make you feel like you have no control over your life, but you can still do things to improve your situation. Start by updating your resume and reaching out to your network. Look for opportunities to learn new skills or take on new projects.

Fourth, give yourself a break.

Being unemployed can be stressful and it can be easy to feel like you need to constantly be doing something to find a new job. But it's important to remember that the job search process can take time and it's okay to take a break and do something for yourself. Job search burnout is real, so take care of yourself before it gets to that point.

Finally, remember that you are not alone.

Losing your job can make you feel like an outcast, but the truth is that it's a common experience. Many people have gone through this and have come out on the other side. Reach out to friends and family for support, and consider joining a support group or networking group.

Losing your job is a difficult experience, but it's not the end of the world. You will heal and you will move on. Remember to take care of yourself, focus on what you can control, and reach out for support. You'll get through this, and the next step will be the stepping stone to something better.

If you’re looking to learn more about trauma and how you can heal and become more resilient, check out these free online courses from trauma specialist and licensed therapist Lori Toscano over on Magnifi U.

Until next time, happy healing & hunting,

Kelley B.